... And I think it might be appropriate to set limits on the amount of media time daily.

What if your husband decided you could only read for 15 minutes a day? How would it affect your relationship with him? How would you feel about those precious 15 minutes? Wouldn't you make sure you got your 15 minutes every single day? And wouldn't you often push the time limit, reading beyond 15 minutes until he demanded you stop?

Is that what you want your sons to feel around TV and video games?

In the past, I have used Media privileges as a successful motivator to get specific studying completed.

What if your husband said you could read for a whole hour if you did something he felt was important but you felt was a waste of time, like scrubbing the garage floor daily? How would you feel about him and the garage floor? Do you think it likely that, when he wasn't around to make you, you'd scrub the garage floor every day?

Making and bribing kids to do something we think is important is often a good way to make sure they avoid it when they are away from us and on their own. So if you want a good way to make them not want to do math once they're out of the house, then you should make them do an hour a day. ;-)

I think a life lived without being made and bribed to do what someone else thinks is important is a much more joyful life and a better way to build relationships with kids.